How to Get Rid of Shame for Good

How to Get Rid of Shame for Good

Did you ever notice how shame feels like being stripped totally naked and paraded in front of all the people you highly regard OR it feels like a nasty, bug infested, wet, wool blanket draped over you from head to toe?

Either way, shame is one of the worst emotional experiences ever.

It doesn’t matter what sin, mistake, or misunderstanding caused the shame; the result is the same. You want to crawl into a hole, curl up into a ball, and die quickly.

For those who’ve suffered sexual or verbal abuse, the naked feeling can last a lifetime.

Scripture tells us that Jesus took our shame to the cross.… Read the rest

You know that really wild idea I had? Well…

You know that really wild idea I had? Well…

Ya know how sometimes you get a really wild idea, and you want to share it with someone?

Not me, I usually do FAR more than share. I draaaag as many people as I can along with me on whatever my latest adventure is going to be.

I figure if I’m going to do something daring and outside of my comfort zone, why not have friends there to enjoy the fun with me!

Here’s how that looked last year … and how you can come along this time:

Last fall I had the pleasure of spending time with ten amazing women as we each created a book of our personal God stories.Read the rest

What little boys can teach us about our faith story

What little boys can teach us about our faith story

We had just sat down to dinner when my 4-year-old grandson, Kai, proclaimed, “I pray now. I love Grandma. I love Grandpa. Am! (Translation: “Amen!”)

Best grace prayer EVER!

Kai was acting out a story that had been lived out before him all of his life. Now he wanted to try his hand at it.

Did he have a doctrinal understanding of a grace prayer?


Did we care if he didn’t? Nope.

Have you ever known a spiritual truth to be understood before it was lived?

Of course not! Faith always precedes understanding.

  • Prayer can’t just be explained. It must be lived before it becomes ingrained in our faith DNA.
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5 Surprising Benefits of Creating a Blessing

5 Surprising Benefits of Creating a Blessing

Wouldn’t you like to change the negative atmosphere that surrounds us these days? Or lift the heart of one who feels like the scum of the earth? Or see destiny rest upon the life of someone you love? And, hey, what about knowing that your kids and grandkids are safely covered in God’s protection?

Yep, I’m talking about the incredible power of a blessing.

Creating a blessing isn’t hard, but it will require your heart, a little reflection, and an understanding of how God’s power works through a blessing.

A blessing is a piece of God’s heart given to another, but first, it has to pass through your heart.… Read the rest

Sometimes nobody knows you but Jesus

Sometimes nobody knows you but Jesus

You’ve gotten up at five in the morning most of your life to work at a less than perfect job. Because it helped pay for the cost of little league, piano lessons, and college tuition for your kids.

You’ve handled rejection, loss, health issues, loneliness, disappointment, and you’ve survived. Because, through it all, you knew Jesus was right beside you on the journey.

You’ve washed a mountain range of dirty dishes, mopped the equivalent of 900 football stadiums, AND cooked enough food to feed Napoleon’s army. Because somebody had to.

You’re a prayer warrior, crying secret tears and praying prayers only God has heard.… Read the rest

How to deal with doom, gloom and dread of the enemy

How to deal with doom, gloom and dread of the enemy

You know that feeling like you’ve been kicked in the gut? It’s a sudden, horrible fear that sucks the life out of you and then hangs its ugly cloud over your life. Think:

  • A letter arrives with a notice that the IRS is auditing your tax return.
  • Your doctor calls and wants you to come in and discuss your latest test results.
  • You find pornography on your grandson’s iPhone when you borrow it to make a phone call.
  • The phone rings and your daughter tells you she has cancer.
  • You discover your identity has been stolen and your bank account is empty.
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Four tips to living your golden years with purpose

Four tips to living your golden years with purpose

I’m assuming you’re getting older. We all do. So let’s process it a little.

The golden years are officially defined as the years of retirement. Since Tom and I will be retiring from over 42 years of pastoring Father’s House late this year, I’m thinking a lot about the future.

Like many, we’ll never fully retire. We plan to keep living in our house and nurturing our careers of writing, blogging, producing courses, and pastoring people we encounter at Starbucks. It’s in our blood.

For people like us, the golden years are after the kids leave home and produce grandchildren. Age isn’t so much a factor.… Read the rest

Simple Reminders for Living in a Crazy World

Simple Reminders for Living in a Crazy World

We’re living in a crazy world right now, aren’t we?

Whether you’re facing a personal earthquake or feeling it in the not-normal happenings all over the news lately… “we’re not in Kansas anymore, Toto.”

No matter where you stand politically, our nation is going through an identity crisis. And the world is watching.

So today I’d like to share some simple reminders of our actual reality. The one we’re focusing on more and more as we grow older and wiser.

Crazy world reminders:

  1. Remember that this world is your assignment, not your home.
  1. Remember that there are many ways to make a difference in someone’s life.
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How to connect with God when the brain doesn’t work

How to connect with God when the brain doesn’t work

Have you ever wondered how to help those you love connect with God in mental illness situations, dementia, or Alzheimer’s?

I love my brother. I worry about him. Jim is homeless and has schizophrenia.

For 40 years he lived in the same little apartment and, except for occasional lapses, did fine on his meds and mental disability income.

Over a year ago during the holidays Jim spent his total monthly income on alcohol and became a Christian. Quite a combination.

My folks had prayed for Jim until they died leaving my sisters and me to continue their prayer assignment. But it hasn’t been easy.… Read the rest

You are, even when you’re not…

You are, even when you’re not…

This last month I passed a road sign in my journey of aging gracefully. The sign read Needy.

(Maybe wanty or dependent are better words for this sign post, I’m not sure.)

This Needy road sign indicates I’m unable to do something physically that I’ve always been able to do. I don’t like losing the ability to do something I love.

Last month my back went on strike

It refused to participate in Christmas decorating. In my book, that was unacceptable.

I always decorate for Christmas. To the max. My kids and grandkids expect it, especially one of my son-in-laws.

And I’d do it even if I lived all by myself.… Read the rest

Celebrate a win and make God proud

Celebrate a win and make God proud

You know that joy you experience when you have a win? When the project you’ve worked so hard on is a huge success?

Or when one of your kids or friends successfully follow through on some advice you give them? Their win makes you proud. Their win becomes your win.

When I look back in the rearview mirror at 2016, I want to see wins. Even in the struggles.

When you experience a win in your life, it’s a reflection of the grace of God moving through you. Yes, it’s your accomplishment, but you couldn’t have done it without His power in you.… Read the rest