16 Surprising Ways to Turn Loneliness into Purpose

Are you feeling lonely? It’s not a fun emotion as it usually morphs into feeling sad, isolated, or depressed.

You’ve probably known periods of loneliness more often than you’d like. Most women over 50 have, so you’re not alone.

As you age, people you care about disappear from your life either because of different interests, a relocation, or death. Most that are left are younger.

They view your world as history. You’ve preserved it as memories.

Not many understand who you are, what you’ve lost, how you think, what you fear, how you process experiences or know the challenges that have shaped the person you’ve become.… Read the rest

Use this tip to frame your day for success

How often have you woken up in the morning with your thoughts carrying snippets of concern, crisis, or unpleasant responsibility?

If you fall asleep dwelling on such things, restlessness or bothersome dreams haunt your night.

When your daily life is squished in-between such musings, it’s hard to envision or experience success in your relationships, job, or activities.

Who wants to live this way? Not me, and certainly not you!

Framing is a creative way to surround your soul 24-hours a day for maximum breakthrough.

So let’s put a “success frame” around your life.

What does this success frame look like?

It looks like everyday life filtered through the lens of the Holy Spirit.… Read the rest

Get THIS down and Christmas will be perfect

I’ve lived for a long time. So have you. Christmas hasn’t always been jolly, has it?

But it started that way.

I mean, who plans to get pregnant without a father and explains it with an impossible story?

Who suddenly finds out that his betrothed is pregnant by someone else AND his reputation is on the line?

Who has to tell their neighbors and friends that their daughter is expecting a baby out-of-wedlock and is possibly crazy?

Who plans for family conflict, bad news from the doctor, financial stress, problems at work, relationship issues, sudden life changes, horrible accidents, drug overdoses, or other life happenings at Christmas…(or at any other time)?… Read the rest

How the Lord’s Prayer Can Free Your Mind of Worry

Do you ever pray without thinking about what you are saying?

Recently, as I was praying the Lord’s Prayer, I was caught up short.

Right after, “Thy kingdom come, thy will be done,” the Lord interrupted me with, “Why don’t you want my will done?”

What???

Of COURSE, I want God’s will done in my life!

Immediately my struggle with a financial worry jumped to the forefront of my mind.

Then the Lord said,

Let me take care of you. I told you that I would. That is my will. Your worry is resisting my will. Give me your worry, and let me do my will on earth as I have decided in heaven.

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10 Questions to Ask Yourself in the Autumn of Your Life

Autumn, my favorite time of year, but this year it signals more than ever the changing seasons in my own life.

It seems but a few months ago that I celebrated the holidays. Now they’re almost here again…

…already?

What?

Where did the time go? What did I do with that time?

I wonder how many more autumns I’ll get to see, and how many family get-togethers are in my earthly future?

And, of course, I think about where am I in relation to God’s timetable on going Home.

Perhaps these musings are gloomy, but I doubt I’m the only woman thinking them.… Read the rest

How to make autumn cozy

This week, after a full day, I meandered into Trader Joes to pick up some of their autumn specialty items. You know, the Pumpkin Kringle that I freeze for our fall, family gatherings and the Pumpkin Ravioli that ALWAYS disappears before I can stock up on it.

After choosing a selection of yummy foods that would make a good “grazing dinner” paired with relaxing conversation — Harvest Soup, Pumpkin Cranberry Crisps, Chimay Autumn Cheese, Honeycrisp apples, dried fruits and nuts, and the Gluten-Free Pumpkin Bread mix—I headed home to have a cozy, fall evening with my family.

Fall has arrived, ladies, and I’m in my element!… Read the rest

Camp Grandma 2019 Zombie Apocalypse

Summer means Camp Grandma at our house. Our chosen theme for this year’s camp was Camp Grandma Zombie Apocalypse. It proved to be more prophetic than I could have imagined.

Planning for Camp Grandma and accepting extra help this year paid off. I’ve always appreciated my teenage grandchildren being “counselors” at camp. But this year I tapped into other family members and a local waterpark to round out our camp activities.

Unknown at our Camp Grandma 2019 planning meeting with my counselors a month before camp started, we were headed for a 4-day camp that would require a LOT of extra hands and hearts.… Read the rest

How to increase your influence with those you love

Years ago, I stumbled upon the key ingredient to influencing others. Amazingly, this key easily translated from my job of speaking and writing to relating advice to those I love.

It’s even more valuable to me as I’ve grown older and want to influence my grown kids and grandchildren in God’s ways.

Early in our ministry, I started teaching spiritual truths in group settings such as church or retreats. Truths that could easily be applied to everyday life.

The driving force behind my work was a passion for helping others apply God’s Word.

Unfortunately, merely presenting information didn’t grab a hold of people like I had hoped.… Read the rest

How to deal with overwhelm in under 5 minutes

Last Sunday our pastor, Andy Rock, got my attention by his comment of how much we expect retirement to be a life free of responsibility—just one long vacation—nothing to do but rest and relax.

It’s true, I thought, dreaming of a 365-day cruise free of cleaning, cooking, and bill paying — a life of someone else doing the work of thinking and doing for me.

“But that’s not retirement,” Andy said. “That’s hospice.”

POW! My bubble burst.

Since Tom and I retired and moved out to the country, our life has been full of things tugging at our sleeves, needing to get done.… Read the rest

5 soul care tips for a daily blast of fresh air

It’s an old habit, but a good one. When I wake up early in the morning, I keep my eyes closed and check the weather in my soul.

One morning recently my soul was foggy and gray.

So I put on my soul-scientist robe and analyzed the foggy, gray cloud-cover hanging over me.

It turns out it was the result of a blizzard of negative political controversy, winds of international doom-and-gloom swirling through the news, and a partially watched, late night movie serving up a storm of violent scenes.

You and I were never created to deal with evil

God had a good reason for telling Adam and Eve not to eat of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.… Read the rest

How to avoid becoming a fossil

Are you in danger of fossilization? Harboring negative aging attitudes that hold you back from healthy change?

I’m on the planning committee for our 50th high school reunion, and guess what! Everyone posting on our reunion Facebook group looks OLD.

I still remember all my classmates as their 18-year-old-selves, except for Tom and me, of course.

So meeting old classmates will be an adventure. Will I recognize them?

Each has either grown from their struggles or become a fossil. (A fossil is something that failed to make the change.)

Fifty years of stories have swirled through their lives to create who they are now.… Read the rest