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How to write a romantic love letter {template included}

“I can’t say how every time I ever put my arms around you I felt that I was home.” – Ernest Hemingway to Marlene Dietrich

Some years ago Tom bought a beautiful gold-leafed, blank notebook with a lock on it.

He filled up several pages with a love letter and presented the book and key to me on our anniversary explaining that it was to be our private communication.

And believe me… IT IS private. And yummy. And so much fun to pass back and forth.

We keep it hidden and pray we remember to put it in the casket of whichever one of us dies first. Or last.

It’s not the kind of book you’d want your kids to stumble across someday…

…Well, I mean… I want them to know ABOUT the book, but not read what’s in it. *blushes shyly*

It’s enough to know that romance is part of my legacy.

After all, isn’t God the biggest romantic?

  • “I have loved you with an everlasting love.”
  • “I loved you so much I died for you.”
  • “I’m so excited to show you the forever home I’m preparing for you.”
  • “I wrote a romantic book just for you titled Song of Salomon.”

Writing romantic love letters

Are you one of those people who find it difficult to switch gears after a busy day and think of something romantic to write to the love-of-your-life?

Especially when you feel pressured?

Like when Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and you need to come up with something romantic?

Been there. Been stumped.

And I’ve learned a thing or two from “Song of Solomon”

One way to begin is to compare two things, such as a name and perfume, or temples and pomegranates.

“Your name is like perfume poured out.”

“Your temples behind your veil are like the halves of a pomegranate.”

(Halves of pomegranate??? OK, skip the lingo Solomon used. Grab your own.)

Try the following exercise and brainstorm with yourself to get your creative juices flowing.

Then use your notes to fill in the template that follows.

Write down 3 things you like about the one you love in the following categories:

  • His looks

Example: his beguiling smile, his silver hair, his ticklish mustache

  • The character traits that define him

Example: his patience, his thoughtfulness, his compassion and concern for his aging parents

  • The personality he shares with the world

Example: his laughter, his ability to find the positive in every situation, his serving meals to the homeless every Thanksgiving

Jot down 6 of your absolute pleasurable things. For example:

  1. The sunset on the beach in Maui
  2. Chocolate cheesecake
  3. Fluffy puppies
  4. Open-air concerts
  5. Quiet walks in the woods
  6. Coffee at [your favorite cafe’] on a rainy day

Now refer to your notes when using this template (and of course you’ll think of new expressions as you write):

Dear [Name],

When I am with you I feel like _________________________.

I love your _______________________ and _______________________.

They fill my heart like ______________________ and _______________________.

I’ve watched you ________________________ and it’s like _________________________.

I’m so proud of you when you ____________________________.

I’m forever thankful that you are my ___________________________, and my one true love.

I love you,

[Your name]

Want to stretch this out a little more? Try leaving one sentence notes on sticky notes or scratch paper in places where your honey can find them.

Try leaving one sentence notes on sticky notes or scratch paper in places where your honey can find them.

Tuck a short letter under his pillow one night a week.

Or buy a blank notebook with a lock on it….

“What do you really want to do for a life work? Break everybody’s heart for a dime? You could always break mine for a nickel and I’d bring the nickel.” – Ernest Hemingway to Marlene Dietrich

Here’s to romance, sparklers, and true love,


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This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. Debbie Jordan

    I absolutely love this idea! Thank you for sharing it with us. My darling husband writes such love notes in birthday, Christmas, anniversary cards, yet I hate to throw them away. The locked notebook may need to replace the Hallmark cards. (Think of the money saved ( 🙂

    1. Susan Gaddis

      Money saver… hadn’t thought of that, Debbie. Good point. Just don’t lose the key!

  2. Jennie Goutet

    This is so sweet and special – I feel emotional! 🙂 My husband is good at writing love notes or poems, but it’s been awhile! I love the journal idea.

    1. Susan Gaddis

      I know, Jennie. It really bothers me when I realize that Tom and I have let the “busy” overshadow the romance. Having a date night each week is something we actually have to plan. I look forward to it every week and unless he’s sick, he’s not getting out of it, ha! The journal doesn’t have to be weekly, but when the mood strikes… and a date night helps with that. 🙂

  3. Sarah Philpott

    Love this! I”m going to share it on my page. I feel a bit sorry for the younger generation….text love letters can’t exactly be saved:) My husband courted me 20 years ago in highschool via letters. I still have the box in my closet.

  4. Susan Gaddis

    So true about not being able to save a text, Sarah. It’s so sweet that you’ve saved the high school love letters from your husband. I have a few of Tom’s too. And I have all the ones my mom and dad wrote to each other during WWII. They were just friends before the war, but fell in love via letters during the war. I need to do something special with them… a digital scrapbook maybe?

    And yes, the younger generation doesn’t know what they are missing. *sigh*

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