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Get Real About Fairytale Endings: Tinkerbell Has to Die {Thursday Therapy}

I have a problem with fairytale endings. Remember the shock of Tinkerbell’s impending death and the relief felt when you clapped your hands and she was revived? OK, maybe I’m having a senior moment, but Tinkerbell’s doom was traumatic for me.

As an adult I realize that Tinkerbell has to be banished to Neverland or die if I am to become all God has destined me to be.

Perhaps you’ve experienced a Tinkerbell death scene. You know what I mean. That horrible moment when you realized that your dream marriage was a farce. The close friendship that ended with betrayal. And the time your anger erupted on some poor soul trying to cross the street. Or . . . dang . . . the person you most wanted to impress found out your son was dealing drugs and your Christian family didn’t look very Christian.

This is good. This is real.

The fairytale ends.

Reality is faced.

Options examined.

Only then are you free to live in Real-life—the land where Jesus heals with truth and wraps grace around ugly.

To look like Jesus you have to first admit you don’t. And where or how you don’t.

That takes guts. That takes letting Tinkerbell die. No clapping allowed. Denial and enabling die with her. No going back to Neverland.

Get real about fairytale endings

  • In what areas of your life have you clapped, encouraging Tinkerbell to live?
  • What did it take for you to let Tinkerbell die?
  • What changed in your life as a result?

Christians need to let their ugly show. People who see the transformation in us from ugly to looking like Jesus want that same change in their lives. Let’s give it to them, shall we?

Have a great weekend, Susan

“Jesus likes it when we share.” -Adelaide, age 3: Pass this along to everybody and their brother. OK, maybe not everybody’s brother, but you know . . . all of your friends would be nice.

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This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Char

    Wow, you know how to drill a hole right to the center and shine a light on it, don’t you!
    I am so glad that all the Tinkerbells in my life finally died. It has been a lifelong battle!
    Anger, arrogance, the need to be in charge even when I had no idea what I was talking about…….
    God is good! I could not do it alone. I had the greatest help from the Greatest Helper Who saw me through!

    1. Susan Gaddis

      Thanks for the mental image enlightening description, Char. Never quite thought of my writing like that, but it works. And for that I am thankful. 🙂

      I appreciate your comment. It’s good to know I’m not alone in dealing with arrogance, control, and anger. And it’s also good to share such changes with one who knows the Greatest Helper.
      Blessings, Susan

  2. Mary Weber

    This made me laugh in an “ACK! it’s so TRUE” kind of way. :0) Ah Tinkerbell…

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